Toxic Masculinity’s Final Era

And how you can help to dismantle it today.

I have a daily ritual.

When I wake up each morning, I come downstairs to my living room, turn on the fireplace, light two candles, make an Americano and pull three oracle cards.

Rituals will save you. Unless they kill you first.

Think about it. What rituals do you participate in—every day—without question? These are your daily habits that have become so embedded in the fabric of your being that you somehow lost this truth along the way: they are choices.

For the past year and a half, I have been on a slow, uncomfortable, identity-shifting journey to explore my daily habits—and to ask myself this potent question: Is it still working?

What got me here got me here. But it wasn’t going to get me out of this place—a place that was no longer serving me.

So, I examined my relationships (all of them), my ways of working, my identities (woman, wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, founder, entrepreneur, activist), my philosophy around exercise and movement, my alcohol consumption, my physical appearance, my psychological state.

And I changed everything. (You can read and listen to what and how here.)

This morning, I pulled these three cards:

A three-card spread is a way to look at past influences, present circumstances and future potential.

So, while “Hostilities: Conflict, Unrest” landing in the “future potential” column could be viewed as a dreaded omen, I received it as an invitation to consider.

My three-card spread this morning.

Here’s what these cards told me today:

Toxic masculinity has ruled the planet for its final era.
The divine feminine is rising with fortitude and fury.

Humanity depends on ALL of us recognizing this truth.

Feminine and masculine energies live inside each of us.
They don’t control us unless we allow them too.

When balanced and expressed in an embodied, healthy way their co-existence is magic.

We MUST recognize where toxic masculinity has taken hold of our lives, our families, our communities, our country.

And then, it is our great responsibility—and opportunity—to right this ship.

I invite you to ask yourself these questions:

Where is toxic masculinity showing up in:

1. my body?

2. my marriage?

3. my parenting?

4. my career?

5. my daily habits?

6. my traditions?

7. my relationships?

8. my belief system?

9. my goals?

10. my aspirations?
    

It’s there.
It’s always there.

But we DO get to decide how much space it occupies.
And it is our birthright to make a shift to re-balance our equilibrium.

If you’ve been waiting for a sign to turn it all around, this is it.

xoxo,

Erin